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An Aging Mom and Dad

When will you Talk with Mom and Dad about Right sizing?

We have all seen the television commercial that coined the phrase "Help, Help I've fallen and can't get up and the elderly woman reaching for a lifeline necklace to alert an ambulance."

There will come a time or it is already here that requires you to deal with some direct and vital issues.

You need to ask the serious questions before...

Their mobility and memory has been impeded.
There has been a catostrophic event - slip or fall
There a medical emergency - Heart attack or Stroke

In my personal life, I was recruited to help my Father over a period of five years. The episode began as a cost savings measure but in retrospect provided the best memories of my Dad and happier times. I did not expect to revise my perspective from asking my Father's advice to changing his diapers within few years span. Yet the financial realities of elder care can be punitive and punishing on family assets. The direct cost of nursing homes or assisted living centers requires us all to reevaluate how we will deal with these issues.

Do not wait for a medical crisis or emergency to force hasty decisions onto limited assets.

Research the Population Numbers

By 2011, more than 1.3 million Canadians will be over the age of 80. Boomers and their aging parents need to be talking to a financial advisor or planner about their options to ensure financial security in times of death, disease and disability.

By 2021 it is expected that the senior population in Canada will be 6.7 million and 9.2 million in 2041, or nearly one in four Canadians. You need to be talking to your parents now. As a Boomer just reaching -- or about to reach -- retirement, you are probably seeing your children out the door on their way to begin their lives but at the same time you may be now, or in the future, responsible for new dependants -- your parents. Medical and nutritional advances mean that the fathers of boomers can expect to live to 90, while their mothers can expect to live to 95. That means there is every chance Boomers will spend more time looking after their parents than their parents did raising them. Source FORUM, May 2008, Aging Opportunity

So, Who can Help Guide you?

There are some really great resources out there. I was in contact with Dr. James Watzke, a gerontologist and Christine Flegal, a gerontologist in the Living Laboratory at the B.C. Institute of Technology who have assembled a Guide both for you as the aging Boomer but for you to initiate the conversations with Mom and Dad while you are home over the holidays.

BCIT's Mobility Now You're Going Places Program, Christine Flegal/BCIT Funding for the BCIT Mobility project was provided by the Public Health Agency of Canada, BCIT, in collaboration with Weber Shandwick Worldwide.

The Region of Peel has taken a different step in that they are outlining and explaining the different options that are available to you locally; from adding a room within your own home,

A Guide to Housing Options is available through my office or can be downloaded at

Housing Options Online

When you are next home for a visit; take a look around. You may need to nail down a few carpets that could make them trip, discuss a more suitable walker or cane. Ask where the Wills and Power of Attorney Documents are kept and if they are up to date.

Crisis management does not permit forward thinking.